Thing Number 5 and 6 explained

Please let me know if you are tired of reading the explanations. Believe me when I say I have plenty of drama to write about.

Number 5: Celibacy

Believe it when I say it is no great burden. It is a choice I have made. I have been divorced for over six years. I tried the whole dating game and found it lacking. Probably since the last time I had really dated was in High School. As outgoing that I am. When it comes to men that I am attracted to, I am reserved. Rather contradictory to my personality, to those who know me well.

So after dating a few men that only wanted a physical relationship with me, and me being stupid and indulging them. I chose to go celibate and to try not dating. The results has been some quiet dateless years. Eventually, if a gentleman is brave enough. I will resume dating. If he is lucky enough, he will break my celibacy streak. I hope he has the stamina. LOL

Number 6: DVD's

I am just a movie freak. If I hadn't been robbed a few times I am sure I would have about a 1,000 movies by now. Movie's are my special treat. I rarely drink, I don't date or go out partying and due to the previous, you know I don't have sex. SO, I buy me a movie here or there as a reward, so to speak. Funny thing is, I have more Books then movies.

Thing Number 4 Explained

This one is fairly simple. But it was fun. My cousin was a hair stylist for the movie. The filmed in Indianapolis, Indiana. My home town. Surprisingly enough, since it was almost twenty years ago, that I remember it fairly well.

I was fifteen at the time. So meeting those actors made my jaw drop. To this day I still swear that Charlie Sheen is better looking in person and the camera doesn't do him justice. John Cusack was rude. He literally shocked me with his attitude. D.B. Sweeney was sweet. It was a very interesting day. I got invited to a Hollywood style party. I was so THRILLED. I didn't get to go. My grandmother wouldn't let me. I was so ticked off.

I sat in the bleachers off and on. I was a person in the crowd. Dressed in a dowdy old style jacket and an ugly hat. I sat behind two very beautiful women. The were dressed in expensive style older closes. You could just tell by looking at them, that they were "girlfriends" of a couple of the actors. Not sure whose, but they were very nice to me and talked to me most of the day.

Even more interesting is the fact that I have NEVER seen this movie. I keep meaning too, but just never have done so. My cousin swears she seen me in it. Until I watch it, I will just have to believe her.

Simple, yet true.

Thing Number 3 Explained

First off, I am honored to have been given my first Blogger Award. Soccer Mom thinks I have Schmooze! I am tickled pink.

Now for what some of you have been waiting oh so patiently for, an explanation. In case you are wondering why and what I am explaining, scroll down.

This one is probably going to be the hardest one to explain. So much detail will need to be given, but I will endeavour to do my best to keep it short and simple.

When I was two, my parents got a divorce. They went their separate ways. I lived with my mother for a time, then my father came to get me. I lived with him for a time. I don't really remember too much about that. I do remember getting on an airplane. Being picked up at an airport, by my Aunt and her husband. They are the ones that adopted me. I lived with them from the time I was six, until right after my twelfth birthday. I remember not being happy. I also remember several events about being treated unfairly. It wasn't a fun childhood.

My father came to visit me when I turned twelve. He took me away from "that" life. I lived with him for a time. He then went somewhere, private and personal, for the military. During that time, my grandmother took care of me. She took the people who had adopted me to court and got full custody of me. I still have the adoption certificates. Each copy has something different on it. All of them were signed by people who are or rather were related to me, in some way. My grandmother raised me for the rest of my days.

Until recently, I thought my father didn't want me. Funny the things you find out when you reach 35. I found out that not only was my adoption illegal when I was younger, but that my grandmother fought dirty and made me believe my dad didn't want me. I was lied to the majority of my life. I learned that he sent money and made phone calls. I learned he was away and unreachable during the time my grandmother pursued her adoption. Basically, I have been lied to most of my life.

First my dad sends me away to stay with family for awhile and he was taken advantage of in that situation. Then my grandmother basically does the same thing. Just this year, literally, have I actually been a part of my father's life and he a part of mine.

Scary huh?

There is so much to tell about the past. One post just will not do it justice. I am sure I will elaborate more, eventually.

Now to pass on the schmoozer award!!

Vixen: You all know and love her as the writer of The Bad Girls Guide. But what not everyone knows is that she has another excellent site. It is all about Sickle Cell Anemia. She rocks that blog like she does her Bad Girls Guide! Carry on my strong sister of the heart!

Teri: This lady says what she wants and tells it like it is. She doesn't try to Schmooze you. It just ends up being irresistible like her. Check out The Road Lester Traveled.

Zoey: An excellent writer in the journalism AND the blogger world. She always has something to say. Ever a surprise and a delight. Zoey's World will rock your world.

nml: The title of her blog is Tired of Men. Though I am sure at one point she was, she is now a new mom. Who doesn't blog enough for me. She is witty, funny and creative. You want schmooze with side splitting comedy? Go read Tired Of Men.

Thing Number 2 Explained

My Oldest Above, with his ex.



I skipped Thing Number 1 because I believe it is pretty self explanatory. Since some of you expressed an interest in a larger detail, I decided to accommodate.

My oldest is 20. He is my cousin that I adopted. His birth mother is a real piece of work or shit, depends on how you look at it. She dumped him on the streets one day and disappeared. We saw her three times after that. When she showed up for three out of twelve allotted visitations. He is my son now and forever will be. He calls me Mom and doesn't care to speak of the so called low life that gave him birth. He is definitely unique. A Goth child as some call the kids today. Be that as it may, he has his head screwed on straight. Holds a job and has a girlfriend. I did have some rough times with him, but thankfully he finally grew up mentally as well as physically.

My middle child is 14. He is from my marriage. I was married for nine years to the man I went to the prom with. He has ADHD, is super smart, super messy but super lovable. He is also very protective of his younger brother.

My youngest is 4. He has a different dad. His sperm donor is a man that I knew for six years. When I told him I was pregnant, he disappeared. He has never seen his son. I hope he never does. I also hope he rots in hell for being such a dead beat. My youngest deserves better. And he has it. He has me.

That is the basics for thing number 2.

8 Things About Me

I seen this on Teri's and the again on Soccer's site. I am not passing the tag along. I just thought this would be a fun thing to do today. Above is a picture of me (I am the red head) and my sister. And yes, I am a natural red head. Though I do cover up the grey now.

The Rules:

Players start with 8 random facts about themselves.
Those who are tagged should post these rules and their 8 random facts.
Players should tag 8 other people and notify them that they have been tagged.

Here are mine!

1.) I am obsessed with pirates. Either from history, books or the movies that are out. I would have loved to been someone sailing the seven seas.




2.) I have three boys, everyone who knows me knows this, but what they don't know is that my oldest is adopted.




3.) I was illegally adopted when I was 5. Only to be reunited with my true family when I was 12.




4.) I was an extra in Eight Men Out when I was 15. I got to have breakfast with Charlie Sheen, John Cusask and D.B. Sweeney. I was in AWE!




5.) I am celibate. By choice.




6.) I collect movies. I must have 300 dvd's as of to date. Not telling you how many old VHS I own. You would laugh.




7.) I divorced my husband because he left me for a woman he never met online.




8.) I wish to start up my own Birthday Planner business one day.

I know they are not all that interesting. But hey, I gave it a shot.

Double Identies and Liars

I will be the first to admit. I have several different online names. Some of them are for the same site. I will also be the first to admit, I will let someone know immediately that each identity is me. Example: The Real Life Drama Queen equals Adventures In Waitressing. If I post a comment on another bloggers site and switch identities on them. I identify myself. It is the right thing to do. Explanation: I didn't know when I first entered the blogging world that I could make more then one blog under the same log in name. Therefore, The Real Life Drama Queen came about.

Now for the real subject of this post. I love to read. I have several authors, that I enjoy so much, I have read their books several times. Enjoyed their books so much that I frequent a few bulletin board sites. Membership has its privileges. Each site plays a game. The game is you get to "claim" a man from one of the books. That fictional man is now yours to pretend in games and such, act like he is real, whatever you wish. Some might think it is strange, but it is nice to live in a fantasy land at times. Anyway, the ladies on these boards enjoy that part of it, as well do I. There I have several names as well. But again, I have identified myself and the ladies know every one of my names.

The problem "we"(IE the ladies of the board) have right now. Is someone else created another name, pretended to be a whole different person and claimed a second man for the games. I know this seems small time. Really it is. It is just the principal of it all. It isn't fair. When new members join and wish to participate, there is now one man less for them to choose from. Not to mention the girl is a liar. What I don't understand the most is, how can you pretend to be every ones online friend and betray their trust at the same time? There are quite a few ladies who have discovered this double identity person out. We have proof to confront her. The ladies that know want to approach her with problem, but are leery. Because when one person causes a problem. There is always that small chance that catastrophe will ensue.

It is a shame really. I have been dwelling on this for along time. I am just amazed at even online, drama can follow you everywhere.